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What is Anxiety Attack- How to deal with it?

ANXIETY ATTACK

What is Anxiety Attack?

Anxiety Attack – A Disease or A Feeling

Anxiety Attack is a very common and healthy emotion that we humans have. It is a feeling of worries and fear. An intuition in mind that something bad will happen leads to anxiety or you may call it is anxiety.  Just like excess of anything is not good, the same applies to anxiety. A higher or misappropriate level of anxiety is never a good symptom. It may be a medical condition that is obviously treatable. But, anxiety is not a medical term it’s a feeling.

Anxiety is directly related to stress. Also, it affects the person physically like high blood pressure, muscle tension, etc.

Anxiety Symptoms

An anxiety attack can be diagnosed easily because it has a lot of anxiety symptoms depending upon its different levels.

  • Headache
  • Irritability
  • Sweating
  • Nausea
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Heart rate fluctuations
  • Tightness in throat
  • Sleep problems
  • Dry mouth
  • Trembling or shaking
  • Feeling faint
  • Worry
  • Restlessness
  • Sadness
  • Tension in head or neck

The symptoms of an anxiety attack can be different for different persons or can be different for the same person in different conditions. These symptoms are not part of every anxiety attack. However, if the anxiety symptoms continue for a long time after the danger or situation has passed, then it might be an indication that these symptoms are the result of a physiological condition known as Social Anxiety Disorder (SAD).

Levels of Anxiety Attack

Anxiety attack has levels, which can be

  • Very light
  • Moderate
  • Extremely high.

The levels mainly depend on the trigger. The trigger and reaction of the person is directly proportional. It is often seen that the symptoms disappear with the disappearance of the hazard or the danger. However, if the stress or danger continues, further problems and symptoms start to develop.

Anxiety or Panic?

A lot of people compare anxiety to panic attacks and conclude that both are the same, which is not true. A panic attack is known to be one of the common symptoms of panic disorders, on the other hand, anxiety occurs depending upon a specific situation and goes when the situation ends. A panic attack usually occurs without any specific stimulus or reason, and its symptoms are more severe as compared to anxiety. Anxiety attack, however, can be one of the symptoms of panic disorder.

How Anxiety is different from Panic

It is generally considered that

  • anxiety is a result of a specific stimulus or trigger, whereas panic attacks do not have a trigger.
  • anxiety does not require any diagnosis since its just a feeling, a however panic attack is one of the symptoms of panic disorder and thus is a diagnosable condition. Only a licensed professional is allowed to diagnose a panic attack.
  • Anxiety is less severe as compared to a panic attack, which is known to have severe symptoms.
  • Anxiety develops slowly when a person feels anxious, on the other hand, a panic attack can occur any time, either a person feels calm or anxious.
  • The physical symptoms of anxiety can be a racing heart or knot in the stomach, but the physical symptoms of a panic attack might include intense terrorized feelings with a fear of death or loss of control. The panic attack can occur unknowingly and can have a duration of a few minutes to few hours.
  • Anxiety does not have any long-lasting health effects; however, panic attacks may result in long term negative effects on body and mind.
  • Anxiety attack is not a physiological condition as it is not listed in the American Physiological Association’s Diagnostic and Statistical Manual 5th Edition. But, panic attack as part of panic disorder is listed in DSM-V.

What causes Anxiety?

Anxiety can be triggered by multiple reasons. Some of the causes of anxiety are given below

  • Pressure including work pressure, social pressure, financial pressure
  • Problems in the family or a relationship
  • Concerns about different stages of life including settling, changing house, starting a family, starting a new thing, entering a new stage
  • Short term memory loss
  • The diagnosis of some diseases can also lead to anxiety.
  • A history of drug abuse
  • Excessive use of caffeine
  • Public speaking or interview
  • A fear of having a panic attack

Besides these causes anxiety can also be the result of symptoms of a physiological condition, which includes social anxiety disorder, phobias, obsessive-compulsive disorder, or post-traumatic stress disorder.

Types of Anxiety

Anxiety disorders have been classified into different types. Every disorder has different causes and symptoms. These include

  • Panic Disorder or PD, which is triggered after losing a job or leaving a home. The disorder is observed to result in having at least two panic attacks and constant fear of future panic attacks, which leads to anxiety.
  • Obsessive Compulsive Disorder or OCD is a physiological condition which results in unwanted repeated thoughts, which are obsessions and behavior, which is a compulsion. The disorder is very common among people and this leads to anxiety if not worked upon thoughts and behavior.
  • Generalized Anxiety Disorder or GAD is considered to be a continuous state of tension or worry caused due to the new or sad happenings in a person’s life. 
  • Phobias are also a kind of anxiety disorder. As a result of a particular phobia, anxiety can occur and it is a known fact that most of the people having phobias know that their phobia is not related to reality.

Health Effects of Anxiety

If anxiety prevails for a long time, there are certain negative health effects that can occur. For example, the continuous anxiety condition can lead a person to depression or an anxiety disorder. Some physical health problems may also arise due to continuous anxiety state. These include

  • High or low blood pressure
  • Increased heartbeat
  • Heart diseases
  • Diabetes, and
  • Frequent infections

How to deal with Anxiety

Anxiety can be easily controlled with just self-manipulation and determination. All you have to do is know the signs and triggers of anxiety, learn relaxation techniques and try a new activity or socialize with people. Exercise and a proper diet can also decrease the levels of anxiety. So have control over your anxiety and enjoy your life.



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How to overcome the Fear of Water (Aquaphobia)?

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Fear of Water (Aquaphobia)

For today, I chose the topic: Fear of Water! When we read or hear this word ‘water’, we tend to draw a picture of it in our minds but what about others who are suffering from this phobia? Have we ever talked about how others feel who are suffering from Aquaphobia; yes, that’s the word.

From ancient times and till now, the world has changed in a positive manner but are we running on the right track. Each and every human being talks about their styles, attitudes and what not but have we ever talked about our weaknesses, our problems or our fears? I don’t think so! To start with today’s journey, let me tell you that it is high time we start talking about things in which people are more interested plus they will build up a sense of confidence to fight with those situations.

What is Aquaphobia (fear of water)?

Aquaphobia is the term which we further explain as ‘fear of water’ which is also known as Hydrophobia. Many people suffer from this disorder and sometimes it’s even uncontrollable for others to control the patient. It is a kind of abnormal fear which is not restricted to only a few areas of water. It could be anything! There are also situations wherein the patients can’t even enter their washroom; it is that scary for some. Not only by seeing water but also when they listen to the word ‘water’ or anything associated with it, they tend to avoid these terms and refuse to participate in any kind of discussion. Their heartbeat runs faster and sometimes it is also difficult to control their behavior and reactions.

Aquaphobia; fear of water is an easy fear to overcome very easily, it takes time. Sometimes the person doesn’t want to enter a swimming pool or even want to have a glass of water in spite of being thirsty.

Statistics:

Statistics say that Aquaphobia is more common and deadly than you can even think of! It is said that every person suffers from one or the other type of phobia. If we talk about Americans then the numbers indicate that between 8.7% and 18.1% of them are suffering from this phobia. Now you can imagine how many Indians suffer from fear of water. There are no proper numbers given on the internet as far as Indians are concerned who are suffering from this particular disease, or aquaphobia.

Facts:

A human being is not born with fears; rather fears develop when human being initially experiences it or seeing another person suffering from the same fear; fear of water. Here, we’ll discuss some of the facts related to fear of water, aquaphobia. As we have already studied about the actual meaning of this term, now further we will be learning about how it develops; the symptoms and also how you can adopt some remedies to have control on your fear. And further, let us start learning about various facts in the next sections of this article.

Fear of water or aquaphobia could easily be overcome, by doing the right exercises and taking the right professional help or therapy.
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Symptoms of fear of water:

When you go and see a doctor, he/she will always ask you about how you feel; the symptoms. After listening to those symptoms only, the doctor is able to detect the problem and accordingly prescribe you the medicines. Similarly, in this part also you need to understand the symptoms of Aquaphobia or Hydrophobia.

  • Inability to swim: This is one of the most common symptoms from which the patient goes through. He/ she have always this fear that the person can’t swim at all.
  • Fear of drowning and then death: Every human being thinks that a person suffering from aquaphobia experiences only one problem; which is, fear of getting drowned. But that is just not it! The person suffers from many other problems except this one.
  • Avoiding entering any water bodies: Another symptom which is common in all the human beings suffering from aquaphobia.
  • Shortness of breath: Another common symptom every patient experiences suffering from this particular phobia. Even if you do not step into any water body, still you will feel that you are not able to breathe properly.
  • Increase in heartbeats: Just the way you deal with any of your business transaction, in the same way, your heartbeat increases at a very fast base.
  • Tremors: This is again another very common symptoms patient goes through who is suffering from this fear of water. When your whole body is tremoring, you just cannot control them at all. So you need to be really careful!
  • Sweating: This is but obvious! If you are experiencing any kind of fear, it is very natural that you will sweat before trying out anything new associated with that fear.

These are the main symptoms from which the patient suffers. So it is really important for you to see and watch out these symptoms in the people around you. By doing this you will be able to track down this fear of water and accordingly you can take the patient to the doctor.

How to overcome the fear of water?

When you are suffering from any kind of disease or fear, some remedies work really well. And further, we shall be discussing the same.

  • Exercises: There are some light exercises which you can try every day to avoid any difficulties.
  • Professional help: Counselling performs a very positive role and helps to develop your personality is a beautiful manner.
  • Therapists: They act just like a guide who are highly professional; they know how to handle the patients.
  • Swimming lessons: Perfect way to overcome your fear of water. Practice makes a man perfect, so can you. With regular practice, you will be able to overcome your fear.
  • Medications: Medicines is a quick type of alternative to overcome with your Aquaphobia.
  • Cognitive therapy: There is not much information available about what exactly this therapy means but yes it does transform you’re thinking from negative to positive.

These were some of the remedies you can try out to fight with your fears. Never give up and try to lead this world with positivity, you will surely overcome with your fears; not one but many.

Cleithrophobia – Fear of being Trapped or Locked.

What is Cleithrophobia?

Every time we take the elevators or we are just enclosed in a small congested place, we never think of it as something unusual or scary. However, unlike us, there are many among the crowd who feel suffocated, panicked and traumatized in such places. As weird it may sound, these fear do exist and the scary part is that such phobias are very risky to life only if one fails to address it. If you are guessing Cleithrophobia synonymous to claustrophobia then you are little on the wrong side. They are like soul phobias yet a little different from one another. Cleithrophobia is the fear of getting trapped somewhere or being in some congested small space where you have very little to move about.

Difference between
Cleithrophobia and
Claustrophobia

Does this sound like Claustrophobia? Well, they are like soul phobias as mentioned above. Claustrophobia is a little different. Let’s take the example of a person who is Cleithrophobic. He enters a small room and he is fine, nothing triggers the fear inside him. This happens because Cleithrophobic people do not feel fearful in confined spaces where they can leave the space at their will, their fear gets triggered only when they are trapped inside the room. If that person would have been locked inside the room, he must have had the panic attack or suffocation because of his Cleithrophobia.

On the other hand, claustrophobia is the fear of small place itself. Which means if someone is in a small enclosed place, he will feel panicked or stressed irrespective of the fact whether he/she is locked or not. These kinds of fear are known as claustrophobia.

Clearly stating that Cleithrophobia is fear of being trapped while Claustrophobia is fear of small confined places. The difference between the two phobias are very bleak but very important too. One should identify the phobia differently as treating it would be easy then.

How would you know you have Cleithrophobia? (Common Symptoms)

The symptoms of Cleithrophobiaare same as other phobias. The common symptoms being anxiety, tension, excessive sweating, nervousness, rapid heartbeats and shortness of breath.

If one has this type of phobia then there is generally a trigger point which in the case of Cleithrophobia is the feeling of being trapped. So if one enters an enclosed space with locked doors or some box where there is no place to leave then generally this phobia gets triggered. Along with the common symptoms, these reactions can be an aftermath of the phobia attack:

  • Crying
  • Screaming,
  • Physically slamming out,
  • freezing up
  • Trying to run away

If the patient fails to run away from the place, then he/she might get fatigued, unconscious or even get severe panic attacks. There will some kind of physical illness and the person won’t be able to think of any other way rather than just escaping from the situation.

Facts

  • Cleithrophobia is mostly more related to winter based fears like being trapped in the snow or underneath ice sheets.
  • Even being locked in a bathroom can trigger Cleithrophobia. Though the lock can be unlocked many people feel clogged inside the bathroom if they suffer from Cleithrophobia.
  • Cleithrophobiausually develops because of some traumatic experience either in childhood or growing years. Eg: A man suffered from Cleithrophobia because when he was a small child he was locked in the traveling trunk for quite some time.
  • Scientifically this phobia is because of the deficiency of a particular brain chemical or malfunction of the brain.

How to come out of it?

If the symptoms are life-threatening or beyond one’s own capability of dealing with it, then the patient should immediately consult a mental health doctor. Phobias can always be dealt with medical help in a better way. Since the experts know the exact remedies to cure the phobia from its root.

Systematic desensitization and other cognitive-behavioral techniques are used to treat the phobias and these can be implemented only when a professional doctor is consulted. However one should refrain from taking potent drugs which claims to cure such phobias. They actually help in calming down the severe symptoms but not actually treat the phobia. They should not be taken also because once the person stops taking the medicine there are many abrupt side effects.

While those patients who feel that their symptoms are milder and not life-threatening can resort to some self-help techniques to deal with phobias. They can practice breathing exercises to help their panic attacks that make the body calmer. They can also remove possible locks from the doors of the rooms so that they don’t feel suffocative. However, it is not always feasible to remove locks everywhere.

Fear of being Trapped/Locked or  Cleithrophobia can be a psychological issue which might be resolved depending on the situation.
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If there is some anxiety or panic triggered, the patient can make meditation a tool to beat the fear if they are alone. And if by chance there is a friend or relative who is with the person while he gets an attack, then they can ask them to speak to them and divert their attention to many interesting things. This Stop! The technique has worked for many people who are suffering from Cleithrophobia.

And if by chance there is a friend or relative who is with the person while he gets an attack, then they can ask them to speak to them and divert their attention to many interesting things. This Stop! The technique has worked for many people who are suffering from Cleithrophobia.

Unlike any other phobia, Cleithrophobia can also get serious. The only way to deal with it is through proper remedy and treatment. One should consult a doctor in case its worst and not delay. If the situation is under control then the patient should possibly foster more mental strength to beat that little fear residing in him/her.

Cleithrophobia facts

Most people feel uncomfortable if their movement is restricted, even if the circumstances present no danger at all. Signs of this anxiety are frequently seen in domestic mammals that are confined or restrained but in wild animals, the fear can be extreme and even result in stress-induced, sudden death. In claustrophobics compared to Cleithrophobia, the stress or fear response provoked by any form of physical restriction is highly developed.

This helps to explain why people with this condition experience phobic fear not only in small, confined spaces such as a lift, phone box or cubicle of a public toilet but also in other, less obvious, circumstances, such as sitting in a chair at the hairdresser or in a seat on public transport, waiting in a supermarket queue or being among a crowd of people.

This aspect of claustrophobia provides evident similarities with agoraphobia in which feelings of being trapped and inability to escape to safety are a prominent feature.

Conclusion

Any kind of phobia should not be encouraged in life since fears are those small restrictions which can become the biggest of obstacles in the path of living life. Cleithrophobia is one such phobia, which doesn’t allow the person to live freely even when the situation is more than normal. If the patient cannot deal with the phobia on his own, he should take help and get it cured. Also, some healthy lifestyle and control over mind can inculcate better results. The important aspect of the entire process of dealing with Cleithrophobia is showing the mental tenacity needed to throw away the phobia outside the mind.

How to overcome the Fear of Death?

What is Fear of Death?

Living in this complicated world where the value of materialistic things is more than the value of true feelings is becoming a challenge. With the changing of times, more and more people are becoming victims of new types of physical and psychological diseases. The sad fact is that the people who suffer from any psychological disease are generally reluctant to the idea of acknowledging that they have a problem. The solution to this problem can be love and care so that a person who is suffering from any psychological disease may feel that he can talk about anything.

Though there are various types of psychological diseases that are gripping people, we are focused on discussing the most common fear among people, i.e. the fear of death.

Fear of death can simply be divided into two categories. The first category covers the actual act of dying. People who suffer from it often perceive it to be a painful and hideous experience and thus they fear it. On the other hand, some people fear being dead and hence they think a lot about what would happen if they die. In most cases, this fear does not impact the day to day lives of the people. But when it starts interrupting your own life’s schedule or the schedule of someone you know, it can be a cause of worry.

What is fear of death called technically?

The technical term used to explain the fear of death is Thanatophobia. It’s taken from the Greek word “Thanatos” which means death and “Phobos” simply means fear. When it’s at its peak it can stop you from leading a normal life as you won’t be able to do anything but think of and fear your own death.

Candle as an art representation of Death (thanatophobia)
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How to recognize you are suffering from it?

Though the people who suffer from Thanatophobia admit that they always think of death in the back of their mind, there are still some situations that can help you recognize whether you suffer from it or not. Have a look and be your own judge: You are suffering from Thanatophobia if:

  • Getting panic attacks by thinking of death too often
  • Feeling a lot of anxiety in a bit dangerous situations like when you forgot to switch off the gas for a minute or two
  • Avoiding simple things like driving at night due to fear of dying in an accident
  • Keeping visiting your doctor and have full body checkups more often than recommended
  • Spending a lot of money on keeping yourself young like undergoing intense plastic surgeries
  • Thinking of new methods by which you can die anytime
  • Keep thinking of what will happen to your family or friends if you die tomorrow (Thinking about it once in a few months is fine but if you think of it every day, it’s a clear danger sign)

How to overcome the fear of death?

To overcome the fear of death, you have to:

  • Accept it: Your first step towards curing Thanatophobia should be to accept that you have this problem. Then you should be willing to spend some time and energy on a regular basis to fight it off. Carving out half an hour every day would be more than enough.
  • Distract yourself: Another method of dealing with Thanatophobia is to distract yourself. Whenever you start thinking about death too much, just sidetrack your mind by doing any other task. Read a novel, listen to music, watch a happy movie or even wash laundry. Do anything that’s liked by you and would immediately catch your attention.
  • Pen Down your feelings and forget them: A good option can be to pen down your feelings regarding the death in a diary or journal and forget about it. When you pen down every possible scenario related to death, you won’t feel the need to think about it at least for some time.
  • Read about your condition: You should also try to read up about Thanatophobia so that you can recognize the symptoms at an early stage and seek solutions for it. You can read about it over the internet or in the medical journals or books published by experienced medical professionals or psychologists who have helped people like you.
  • Talk to people with similar conditions: If you have been thinking that you are the only person dealing with Thanatophobia then you are not altogether correct. There are several people dealing with it and most people do not like to discuss it in front of their loved ones. If you also don’t want your loved ones to know about it then you can join internet groups where such experiences and their cures are shared so that you can learn from other people’s experiences.
  • Seek religious assistance: You can talk to your priest about your problem and seek the help of God in removing your fear.
  • Consult with a psychologist: If you are an open-minded person then you can seek the help of a professional psychologist and work with him or her to get rid of Thanatophobia on a permanent basis.

A Real Story:

I know a person who also had Thanatophobia. Let’s name him John for this story. His fear was born when he was in the police force and had to fight off some maniac people who were terrorizing village people. Though he succeeded in saving the lives of more than 3 families, but he was hit with a bullet just an inch from his heart. He developed a Thanatophobia when he was in the hospital and was recovering from his physical injuries.

He, unlike many people, discussed his fear with his family and sought religious and psychological assistance. Though he has not completely gotten over Thanatophobia till now, his progress is good as he had rejoined the police force and still serves the country.

If he can do it, why can’t you? Just pack up the courage to speak about Thanatophobia with your loved ones and let them guide you towards the way to get over it.

How to overcome the Fear of Public Speaking?

Fear of Public Speaking

“It usually takes me more than three weeks to prepare a good impromptu speech.”

 Mark Twain on the fear of public speaking.

Fear of public speaking is the common known fear in almost every individual. Most of us at some time or the other in our lives have performed in front of a live audience. It could be due voluntarily, or we may have been forced into it due to peer pressure, or a professor’s choice, but we have done it. Some excel in it, riding on the waves of emotion and applause from the crowd and become hits. Most don’t. More often than not, most of us suffer from a bout of nervousness and anxiety just as we are about to hit the stage. But once the initial jitters pass, most of us can at least complete the show with some amount of confidence and calm. It’s a common phenomenon which even most actors have suffered from in their lives.

However, there are some people who are unable to get over their initial nerves, those initial jitters, and they get a crippling sense of anxiety and nervousness as they begin their show, be it in performing a play in front of an audience, a musical performance, or even some sporting event. If looking at the sea of spectators causes you to get all nervous and anxious, and instead of passing soon, if it develops into self-doubt and tension, you are probably suffering from performance anxiety, commonly known as stage fear.

Interesting facts about the fear of Public speaking.

Public speaking is said to be the greatest fear of many American adults, topping financial ruin, flying, sickness, and even death, a recent survey reports. A case of Stage Fear at its strongest. Some surveys have even reported that as many as 90 percents of the people today suffer from stage fright. Of course, in most cases, it diminishes as you continue performing in front of the public, and soon you end up owning the stage. However, for people suffering from social anxiety, almost every interaction is a case of stage fright, and these people inevitably end up shying away from these interactions.

In many cases, stage fright occurs long in advance of the performance itself, revealing itself through symptoms such as quickened heartbeat, dry mouth, and dizziness. It passes once the performance or situation begins, at least in most cases. If you aren’t used to performing in front of an audience, and it is your first time, stage fear is almost inevitable. However, it is never permanent. Unless you suffer from chronic stage fear, in which case almost every social encounter is tedious and a challenge to get through.

Many famous people have had stage fear in their lives. People as well-known and as famous as Maya Angelou, Amanda Seyfried, Adele, Lorde, and many more have suffered from Stage Fear in their lives. They persevered and soon came to own their fear and began dominating the stage. It is essential to become the master of your mind in order to deal with such problems.

In addition to the commonly noted symptoms of stage fear, you may also suffer from shaking uncontrollably, blushing, trembling, nausea, and light headedness. This occurs because the body activates its sympathetic nervous system in response to the fear.

How to overcome this fear?

There are many ways to successfully combat stage fear. It is said that an effective way to combat your fears is to face them head on, to be continuously exposed to them so that you get used to them and eventually overcome them. This is a practice which even some psychologists practice. Most of the time, the problem is in your mind. You suffer from stage fear because you feel that you won’t be good enough, that your performance won’t be accepted and meet the standards of the crowd, and such negative thoughts build in your mind, eventually leading to greater tension and nervousness.

Be confident, you can easily over the fear of public speaking.
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To battle this, you must first learn to accept yourself for who you are. Realize what your flaws are, and accept them as a part of yourself. Do not put yourself to meet impossible standards, which more often than not, are completely illusory and only exist within the trappings of your mind.

Meditation and natural remedies help in such situations. If the problem is too great, you can always consult your physician and ask for appropriate treatment to get over your fear. If you are willing to face your fears and emerge successful, it becomes possible to unshackle yourself from the crippling chain that the fear has put around you. It will make you become more comfortable in your own skin, and soon, the stage won’t seem like a problem, but an opportunity to express yourself and ride an emotional high in front of the audience, be it a huge setting, or just a single person like at a job interview.

These are a few ways to battle the fear of public speaking:

  1. Shift the focus away from the fear, don’t let it seize you. Instead, concentrate on enjoying the moment and stop worrying about the reaction that you will get.
  2. Do not worry about what will go on. Negativity does not breed success. Focus on what will go right. Calm yourself, you can do it.
  3. Be confident, do not let thoughts of self-doubt and failure hamper you. Reassure yourself by being confident in your own abilities.
  4. Do not bother being perfect. No one is. Everyone makes mistakes, what matters is how you do despite those mistakes. Sometimes, a smart and witty reaction to a failed joke can be even better than the original for a comedian while speaking in front of an audience. Keep your wits about you.
  5. Be ready when you have to perform. Prepare your material in advance so that you will be well versed with it.
  6. Practice a clean and healthy lifestyle so that you can be calm and relaxed instead of hyper and anxious.
  7. Keep a strong and vibrant posture. Do not cower, instead, accept everything and use it for your benefit. Often, your reaction to your failures leaves a stronger impression on the person in front of you than anything else.

Above everything else, remember that you are human, and you can make mistakes. Accept them and move on, do not let it hinder you. Success lies beyond failures.

The Cure

Fear of Domestic Violence

The Fear of Domestic Violence

Fear is a negative emotion which makes a person vulnerable to many other things like mental and physical problems which leads him/her in the loop of darkness. Well, there are many kinds of fear but some of them begin from home.

You may have feared walking the empty streets at night probably thinking of rape or eve teasing. You must have skipped work since you know that your boss is molesting you some way or the other. But did you ever think that your home can become a danger den because you are tortured physically, mentally and sexually? Well, when your own home becomes a nightmare for you then it is the birth of domestic violence, which has inflexed a fear in you. This fear affects you as an individual, threats your identity and withholds your self-esteem in a cage.

Meaning of Domestic Violence

In the books, one can define domestic violence as a disturbing behavior in the form of physical injuries or abuse which is done by one person towards another who are living together in one place. This is generally found among the married couples for many other social evils that are persisting in the society and atrocities that make domestic violence exist. This is contagious to the whole family and affects them gravely.

How one develops the fear – the probable reasons?

Domestic Violence starts from a point when an individual tries to exert domination on their partner through violence or abuse and at one point the harm done exceeds the limit of toleration affecting the victim physically and mentally. Sometimes the cases are so worst that the victim suffers from near to death experience.

Well, it is not normal behaviour from the perspective of both who commits the violence as well as the person who tolerates it. The domestic violence gets very complex in a situation like marital abuse, children’s violence on their parents or some other form where a lot of emotional and societal pressure is observed.

In Indian society marriage is sacred and women are entitled to serve her husband rightfully to dignify herself as a good wife and a perfect daughter in law. However when her husband commits domestic violence and inculcates a fear in his wife, then probably the fear has made its mark and the violence will get worse with each passing day.  Some reasons which inculcate the fear of domestic violence are:

The fear of domestic is one of the most known issue in this world.
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  • Psychological Pressure on the victim to keep silence about the domestic abuse or else they are threatened to be killed or their family member will be harmed.
  • The cycle of violence: Once the victim is beaten or abused, they somehow tolerate and keep tolerating because they have already made it their habit to be abused.
  • Less in power and authority: this is in a marital relationship when the husband is more dominating and powerful and he abuses his wife who considers him godlike.
  • Fear of society demolishing the victim: because of the outside worldly pressure, the victim gives into the domestic violence because one’s self-respect, as well as their families’ name/reputation, is at stake.
  • Situational Reasons also induces fear wherein the victim feels that facing the fear will probably make them lose their children in case of couples, lose on economic dependence, social boycotting of the victim because of a failed marriage.
  • Emotional influences which make the victim empathetic to the abuser believes for a change in their behaviour in the near future.

Signs of Fear of Domestic Violence:

  • Chronic fear when the victim faces the abuser
  • Trembling, lack of concentration on work, Low self-esteem
  • Constant psychological pressure to deal with domestic violence
  • Social isolation where the victim almost cuts down on being social as they have to answer questions related to their abuse or wounds on their body because of violence.
  • Being grateful to the abuser for even minimal favor
  • Feel like locked up in the relationship where you neither step out of it nor stand by it because of domestic violence.

Facts About the Domestic Violence:

  1. Sometimes the victims lack education, knowledge or sensibility and therefore surrenders into the violence
  2. Domestic Violence is not just physical abuse, it can be verbal, psychological or sexual.
  3. Domestic violence is often not committed by one person on another, it can be between two people or more committing it. E.g.: When the in-laws abuse the daughter in law for male child, dowry or female infanticide.
  4. Domestic Violence is an outcome of other issues like dowry, male ego, Alcoholism/drug influence, mentally disturbed abuser, official tension, displacement of anger outburst and competition with colleagues on the matter of macho factor.
  5. The victims often are a hostage or entrapped into the loop of domestic violence.
  6. The victims themselves keep silence out of fear and therefore they do not report the case and many of them are dormant or unsolved.
  7. There are many suicides reported because of domestic violence.
  8. The statistics say that the victims of domestic violence are majorly females/women.

Story of Katherine – Domestic Violence Survivor

Katherine, a young housewife, and mother of two children was a victim of domestic violence. She stayed in the abusive relationship hoping her husband would change, however things turned really bad when her husband became very controlling and also started getting violent towards children. Katherine took help of NGO and fought against the terror. She was terribly wounded in the relationship.

How to overcome this fear?

  • Healthy self-talk will help you dwell deep inside yourself, will let you understand what exactly the relationship is giving and how much it is taking away from you. This self-talk is an initial start point which will help you take another step.
  • Either face the abuser or share the problem with your family member/loved ones. Take their advice only if you think is viable in your situation.
  • To overcome the fear, let the fear out. Occupy your mind in fighting the issue rather than surrendering to it. Search for an NGO/Counsellor through newspaper or internet and talk to them on phone on the issues you are facing.
  • Develop confidence to face the abuser, either stop them or raise your voice because to solve the problem all you have to do is face it. Make a move, face the abuser with equal strength, this is will help you to overcome the fear.

Well, this problem is a serious issue which has rooted all over the world. The victim faces a lot of difficulties when they are in an abusive relationship, it becomes difficult to face the world and the people in the house. Every moment seems like a fearful experience. However, this fear is attached to a person and to overcome it one must have the courage to face it. Therefore the fear of domestic violence must be reported and solved.